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Get Out Get Love
"This will no-doubt take time but will be more than worth it, and has already started to remove needless stress from my life"
- Anonymous male
Welcome to Get Out Get Love
This is the pilot programme.
To access the programme you must be signed up to participate in the evaluation.
Go to: https://www.getoutgetlove.com
The full version is coming soon!
ACT I
Getting Insight and understanding our own story.
We look at the psychology of abuse- how we fell into the relationship, why we stayed and how to avoid this in our future
ACT II
Help with deciding to leave and some practical advice on how to do this.
We explore why we need to stay away, why this is so difficult and enable you to do this.
SELF-COMPASSION
Built into the programme we have provided self-compassion exercises to help with difficult emotions and thoughts as they arise.
Example Curriculum
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- Waking from a dream
- My story
- The effect of waking up
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion meditation
- How could we not see it?
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - appreciation journalling
- Why we can't see it
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - acts of self kindness
- Pause & process
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - inviting a compassionate response
- Summary
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Loving kindness meditation
- Take what you need
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- Your thoughts on ACT I.1
- Hooked on abuse
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion meditation towards our own suffering
- Love at first sight
- Love at first sight (part II)
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - appreciation journalling
- An emotional vulnerability
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - inviting a compassionate response
- The addictive cycle
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - acts of self kindness
- A hard pill to swallow
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - letter writing
- Pause & process
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Body Scan Grounding
- Summary
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- Your thoughts on ACT I.2
- Misdirected love
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - inviting a compassionate response
- A love story retold
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Mindful Observing
- Grooming
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - appreciation journalling
- Introducing the FOGS
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - acts of self kindness
- The FOGS that blind us
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Soothing Breathing
- Pause & process
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - letter writing
- Summary
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- Your thoughts on ACT I.3
- How to recognise abuse
- Abusive behaviours
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Weighing up the decision to leave
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Accepting Our Complex Self
- Seeing abusers as adults
- Self-compassion Exercise - appreciation journalling
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - acts of self kindness
- Noticing abuse
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - inviting a compassionate response
- Normal or abusive?
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Pause & process
- Self-compassion Exercise - letter writing
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Our calming place (two versions)
- Summary
- Journal Reflection Prompts
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- Your thoughts on ACT I.4
- How abuse shapes our reality
- Blind love
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Our calming place (sea waves version) - repeated.
- Our defences can sabotage us
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - appreciation journalling
- Cognitive dissonance
- Cognitive dissonance in abusive relationships
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Dissociation
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - acts of self kindness
- Waking up for a moment
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Pause & process
- Self-compassion Exercise - inviting a compassionate response
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-compassion Exercise - letter writing
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- Your thoughts on ACT I.5
- How love should not feel
- Questions that we need to ask ourselves
- Reflecting on Questions
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Accepting Our Complex Self
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Deciding to go
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Self-Compassion Meditation - Free and Loving Self
- Your thoughts on ACT I.6
- Self-compassion Exercise - letter writing
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- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- The ACT of leaving
- Learned helplessness
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- The door is open
- When leaving is a REAL risk
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Trust we are survivors
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Pause & process
- Summary
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Acknowledging different situations
- Emergency planning information
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- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- The ACT of processing our story
- Echoes from the past
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- More than just echoes
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Pause & process
- Inviting a story not an experience
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Exercise - Grounding yourself when you feel numb or confused.
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- Your thoughts on ACT II.10
- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- Introducing the ACT of soothing fear
- Updating our story of fear
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Our old friend fear
- Noticing our old friend fear
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Learning to put fear in the passenger seat
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- How to self soothe
- Pause & process
- Journal Reflection Prompts
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- Your thoughts on ACT II.11
- Introducing the ACT of soothing obligation
- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- Recognising the story of obligation
- Reframing obligation as an old friend
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Educating our old friend obligation
- Soothing obligation
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Pause & process
- Journal Reflection Prompts
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- Your thoughts on ACT II.12
- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- Introducing the ACT of soothing guilt and shame
- The story of guilt and shame
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Soothing the guilt of leaving
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Shame thrown at us
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Soothing shame and guilt with acceptance
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Soothing shame and guilt with forgiveness
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Soothing shame and guilt with self-compassion
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Summary
- Key Exercise - Do Not Skip & Practice Repeatedly
- Ideas for Self-Compassion at times of need
- Your thoughts on ACT II.13
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- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- Introduction to meeting our needs
- Lost needs
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- The need to heal
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Step One
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Step Two
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Step Three
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Step Four
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Step Five
- Summary
- Your thoughts on ACT III.15
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- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- Post traumatic growth
- Triggering growth
- When being a victim helps
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Avoiding regret and shame
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- When being a victim doesn't help
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Being a survivor
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Choosing to grow
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Summary
- Your thoughts on ACT III.16
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- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- The unmet need for closure
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Ending the love story
- Accepting our feelings
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Look for our old friends getting in the way
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Letting go and inviting in
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Your thoughts on ACT III.17
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- Building and maintaining self-compassion (prompt)
- Introduction to the ACT of feeling valuable.
- Start with being selfish
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Integrating the past into our current self
- The focal point of the ACTS- self-love
- Feeling your own value
- Journal Reflection Prompts
- Baby steps
- Summary
- Your thoughts on ACT III.18
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